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Rule No. 162 - The big secret in life is that there is no big secret

So I haven't written about a rule for a really long time. Really, really long time. It's time again, and who better to start off with than the one and only Oprah.

These days, no matter where you look, you'll find all sorts of answers and inspiration. How to live a better life, how to lose your body weight in 10 days, why he's just not that into you... you see where I'm going with this. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for a miraculous secret to quickly fix everything. I have the vision board, the Kikki.K "message a day" next to my bed, a board dedicated to inspiration on Pinterest and enough life-changing quotes to go the distance of the Great Wall of China. But at the end of the day, none of these are big secrets, they're guidelines or mentoring and, of course, some are total hogwash but by no means life's big secrets.

I think what it comes down to is that in this day and age we find ourselves in, we seem to be desperately searching for this great big secret that's going to make everything okay. The secret that's going to mend our hearts, get us that job promotion, find the perfect person. Oprah says there is no big secret. She knows what she's talking about, mostly. 

So what now? What do we rely on now that there is no big secret? The rest of her quote goes like this: "Whatever your goal. You can get there if you're willing to work.”

Hard work, determination and a dream i guess. Give it a try. 


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