Rule No.108 - All suffering is caused by being in the wrong place. If you're unhappy where you are, move.

And if it were that easy there would be many more happy people in the world. Or is it that easy? How many of us have been in a really unhappy place? If you didn't put your hand up now, you are so lying.

Honestly though, I have experienced this rule first hand. I was in a bad bad place 6 years ago, so what did I do? I moved. Best move of my life. Leaving my family and friends behind was incredibly hard, but as far as my heart and soul, it was the best thing in the world. Many people saw it as me running away, but it wasn't running away from a situation but rather running towards a better, happier me and the fact that it came with a mountain and a beach was a bonus. It is something I have never looked back at with regret, even with all the highs and lows since being here.

Now we have to look at this from the metaphorical side of things. Sometimes actually physically moving is impossible, but it has to be more of an emotional move. A shift in thinking. Lets say you have a friend that because of circumstances you feel responsible for them. But the friend doesn't treat you well and makes you feel more unhappy than happy. If you can recognise this situation as being the wrong place, then you are one step closer to moving away from there. You don't have to change cities or provinces like I did, but you can move away from what is hurting you. Unless you think or know that that wrong place can become the right place again and your heart can tell you that, consider your situation carefully. Alternatively... move.

Like my ABBA friend says, always go to your happy place.

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Anonymous said…

Sometimes we need to leave our happy place, but we always carry it with us in our heart. And hopefully return to it one day soon ;) xxx

4 June 2012 at 21:36

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