Rule No.108 - All suffering is caused by being in the wrong place. If you're unhappy where you are, move.

And if it were that easy there would be many more happy people in the world. Or is it that easy? How many of us have been in a really unhappy place? If you didn't put your hand up now, you are so lying.

Honestly though, I have experienced this rule first hand. I was in a bad bad place 6 years ago, so what did I do? I moved. Best move of my life. Leaving my family and friends behind was incredibly hard, but as far as my heart and soul, it was the best thing in the world. Many people saw it as me running away, but it wasn't running away from a situation but rather running towards a better, happier me and the fact that it came with a mountain and a beach was a bonus. It is something I have never looked back at with regret, even with all the highs and lows since being here.

Now we have to look at this from the metaphorical side of things. Sometimes actually physically moving is impossible, but it has to be more of an emotional move. A shift in thinking. Lets say you have a friend that because of circumstances you feel responsible for them. But the friend doesn't treat you well and makes you feel more unhappy than happy. If you can recognise this situation as being the wrong place, then you are one step closer to moving away from there. You don't have to change cities or provinces like I did, but you can move away from what is hurting you. Unless you think or know that that wrong place can become the right place again and your heart can tell you that, consider your situation carefully. Alternatively... move.

Like my ABBA friend says, always go to your happy place.

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Anonymous said…

Sometimes we need to leave our happy place, but we always carry it with us in our heart. And hopefully return to it one day soon ;) xxx

4 June 2012 at 21:36

Rule No.33 - Never kick a fresh turd on a hot day

Okay, rules are back and what a classic one! This quote is by Harry S Truman. He was the 33 rd president of America, historians call him “a controversial president”, the band Chicago wrote a song just for him and he has a commemorative holiday in his name on the 8 th May in Missouri. This is brilliant advise, not in the literal sense, well, that too, but if you having a seriously bad day, don’t make things worse by deliberately doing something that will bite you in the bum later. I did this the other day, so I am talking out of experience here. I went into a situation and then on the way out, after realising it was a bad situation, I kicked a fresh turd cause I was so mad. (again, not literally, although, that might have been a better idea in hindsight) My advise in this circumstance is to stay indoors that day until you have calmed yourself down. I’ll leave you with another quote from Truman : A pessimist is one who makes difficulties of his opportunities and an optimist is one who ...

Rule No.59 - If you can't dazzle them with brilliance, baffle them with bull.

"Bull", meaning nonsense, dates from the 17th century, while the term "bull*&$*" has been used as early as 1915 in American slang , and came into popular usage only during World War II . The word "bull" itself may have derived from the Old French boul meaning "fraud, deceit" (Oxford English Dictionary). The term "horse*&$*" is a near synonym. Worthy of note is the South African English equivalent "bull dust". Few corresponding terms exist in other languages, with the significant exception of German Bockmist , literally "billy-goat *&%*". Funny, Suze Original and I were talking about this the other day. She went for an interview and we were laughing cause we both do the same thing. They ask you a simple question that could be answered in a line or two but we both start elaborating so much trying to make a good impression that what started as "My favorite hobby is... right to.. and that's why I...

Rule No.68 - You don't save a pitcher for tomorrow. Tomorrow it may rain.

One must please forgive me lack of knowledge when it comes to baseball. At first glance I understood this rule as a pitcher full of wine or Pimm's. You can see my confusion. First of all, why on earth would you leave it till the next day, and then even if it was raining, whats to stop you from having some. Sigh. Anyway, after seeing who the quote was written by I was incredibly embarrassed to find out it was about a pitcher in a baseball team. How silly of me. I did think it insane that someone would ever tell you to save a pitcher of Pimm's for the next day. I think this rule also applies to the whole don't save your best china for special occasions, every day should be celebrated. What's the point of having them if you going to keep them in the cupboard until the fancy people come, what about your run of mill, everyday peeps. They should be even more special. So don't save that wine, the pitcher or the china for another day. If you have it, use it.

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