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Rule No.82 - Consult your friend on all things...

... especially on those that respect yourself. His council may then be useful where your own self-love might impair your judgement."

What would we do without best friends. There are many reasons for having friends and as much as it is the best to be able to share all the amazing fun, exciting stories, they are also great for sharing the not so fun things. They are there to help you, and guide you, and if they can give you advice that you wouldn't have thought of all by yourself cause you would be too caught up in it all and during that time is when you loose the big picture of things.

Friends are there to let you know that yes, you are actually being an idiot and not thinking straight, and they even have the right to give you a big fat slap to snap you out of whatever slump you are in. Sometimes all you really need is for them to make you take two steps, sometimes three or four, back and look at it properly. Yes, there were good times, but you seem to have forgotten about the bad, no, you would not look good with a pink Afro, but maybe we can talk about a Brazilian blowout, yes, you are definitely putting everything out of proportion, this is how it really is, yes your heart is aching but remember why, and no friend, you cannot wear that outfit, you look like a tart!

This is the advise we don't want to hear, but need to, and only our true friends will be strong enough and confident enough in the friendship to tell us. This is why we chose them as friends and why we consult them when we need help, or advise, or some brutal honesty. And we still love them afterwards.

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Anonymous said…
2 out of 3! you're getting better but advise still slipped in at the end!

p.s what's a Brazillian blowout? Sound intriguing?

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