Rule No.34: Let the world know you as you are…

… not as you think you should be, because sooner or later, if you are posing, you will forget the pose, and then where are you?

We all have people we can be ourselves with and people we feel we need to “adjust” ourselves to at some stage of our lives. I am so fortunate that I have a massive family that I have never had to “pretend” in front of, and even though they know every single flaw they love me all the more for it. This past weekend I went to Bienvenido to visit my Cowboys and Indians families. I cant tell you how special these times are to me. We are so comfortable in ourselves around each other that we can say exactly what we thinking, even if it’s completely insane and leaves a “gasp” sound around us, cause after a couple seconds there will either be shrieks of laughter or hugs and kisses to make you feel that everything really will be okay.

Then there are the friends that you can be just you with, sharing a hunters, having a dance on a stage even if it isnt a stage or eating bad calamari together. When you wake up, there is no need to put a mask on. They accept you for you, and that’s got to be a good thing if they still stick around. Some as long as 31 years!

I have to admit now though, that in the past I have been very guilty of wearing a mask. I thought if I did this, or thought like that, I would be more accepted. I even went as far as forcing myself to believe that if I change, the way they wanted me to, things will get better. The comical side to this, is that I did change and it ended up blowing up in my face, but it had to happen to make me realise. I have learnt from it all and become a better person from it. If someone doesn't like me, just as I am, flaws and all, then they are more than welcome to keep walking. I am a patient person and know that one day, i will be the girl of someones dreams.

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