Rule No.139 - Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.

Rule No.139 - Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened. - Dr Seuss

Let's be honest here. As brilliant as this rule is, it's one of the hardest things to do. You ask any bride the day after her wedding, is she happy it's over? No! That big day you've been waiting for for years and months of planning is gone. Ask someone that's just had a break up, all heartbroken. No! Not smiling, well most of the time. How about a holiday. Ever known any normal person to smile after it's over? Nope, not me anyway, I cry after almost every holiday. I even get sad at the end of a fun night or a great movie. Endings suck. Yes, you smile when you think about past holidays, or your big day, or amazing times in that relationship that you had, or the fun dancing all night, but that's only later, after processing.

Don't get me wrong here, we should definitely smile about the incredible things and people that have happened, but i think you need that small grieving time to process the ending of something. That's probably defeating the whole point of the rule but I find it hard to believe that someone can slap on a smile at the end of something. Maybe that's just me though.

I adore Dr. Seuss and have read almost every single book and I love the story lines and positivity in all of them, but at the end of the day, we're all human and I think it's okay for you to be a little sad. if only for a millisecond. But really only a little while, no longer than that. Then you need to pick yourself up and acknowledge the blessing and treasures you've just experienced and store those happy times in a safe place for you to take out whenever you need them. Most of the time, this is easier said than done but at the end of the day, it's a nicer way to look at things by smiling because it did happen. And you were lucky enough to have it happen to you. So, what I'm trying to say is don't best yourself up if you not jumping for joy at the end of a chapter, just try remember to not get stuck there. Dry those tears and make the memories the important part.

The only exception I can think of now, is my Zulu exam, don't think there will be any grieving or tears when it's over, unless they are tears of pure joy.

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