Rule No.45 - Trust everyone, but always cut the cards.

In other words, trust everyone, dot dot dot, but not really.

This rule applies from the gorgeous little ones I met during my travels recently, to friendships and of course relationships. Some people are just generally trusting, others have learnt the hard way. When your trust has been broken with someone, it's extremely difficult to learn to trust again without always thinking there is something else behind it all.

Then on the other side, if you haven't been in a situation like this you will be completely trusting, which most people would say is an amazing thing to have but I think you have to have a certain amount of curiousity. That doesn't sounds right, does it. It's almost as though I'm saying, trust everyone, but be careful cause they might do a 360 on you. But that isn't actually what I'm saying. Yikes, um, how do I say this diplomatically?

For me, being naive is worse than not trusting. So you need to have trust with a healthy amount of curiosity, and that is a very tiny little bit, just to keep you above things. I am on a journey of learning how to trust again, with some amazing help, but I think it is good to always just be on top of things. I'm looking forward to finding that balance and I can't wait to get there.

Trust is one of the greatest things, and they say, once you have it, it could change your world and how you perceive it. But remember to keep a healthy, balanced card cutting system.

Does that make sense?

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